As summer winds down and store aisles fill with school supplies, many families are preparing for the upcoming school year. But for many students, especially in the aftermath of the COVID-19 pandemic, returning to a physical classroom can feel overwhelming. The shift from remote or hybrid learning to traditional in-person instruction is a major transition—not just academically, but emotionally and socially.
To help ease this adjustment, mental health professionals like Christina Eilers, LCSW, from the Bayhealth Wellness Center at Caesar Rodney High School, are working closely with families and schools to provide critical support. As parents, you play a pivotal role in helping your child succeed. In this guide, we explore how you can actively partner in your child’s educational journey and foster resilience through times of change.
The Importance of Parental Involvement in School Transitions
Returning to school after a global disruption requires more than just new notebooks and backpacks. It demands empathy, patience, and preparation.
Why Parents Matter More Than Ever
Parental support is one of the most influential factors in a child’s academic and emotional well-being. With kids adapting to changes in routines, classroom setups, and social expectations, they need consistent reassurance from trusted adults.
Be Prepared: Expect Change and Stay Flexible
Embrace the New Normal
Although schools have reopened, the structure may not be the same as it was pre-pandemic. From staggered schedules to updated health guidelines, flexibility is key.
Schools Are Preparing, Too
Educators and school mental health professionals have been undergoing training to make transitions smoother. But even the most well-prepared systems need the support of involved parents to truly succeed.
Helping Kids Navigate Fear and Anxiety
Recognize the Signs of Stress
Children express anxiety differently. Some may become clingy, others irritable, or overly quiet. It’s crucial to notice these changes early.
Open the Lines of Communication
Encourage your child to talk about their fears. Don’t brush off concerns—even if they seem irrational. Use questions like:
- “What worries you most about going back to school?”
- “Is there something you’re afraid will happen?”
Be Patient with Their Emotions
Children may not have the words to express exactly what they’re feeling. Offering a listening ear without judgment can go a long way in building trust and emotional stability.
Be a Role Model: Stay Calm and Positive
Model Emotional Flexibility
Children mirror their parents’ behaviors. If you demonstrate calmness and adaptability, your child is more likely to follow suit.
Validate and Educate
Rather than dismissing their fears, offer facts to help them assess risks. For instance, if your child fears getting sick, explain how schools are keeping students safe through cleaning, distancing, and vaccination initiatives.
Watch for Warning Signs
Understand What’s Normal—and What’s Not
While some anxiety is expected, persistent behavioral changes may signal a deeper problem. According to Christina Eilers, “Significant changes in mood or behavior that interfere with daily life—like prolonged sadness or social withdrawal—should not be ignored.”
Know When to Seek Help
If symptoms last more than a few weeks, consult school counselors or community mental health providers. High school wellness centers, such as those operated by Bayhealth and other Delaware schools, offer accessible resources to help.
Be Sensitive to Every Child’s Unique Experience
Every Family Faced the Pandemic Differently
Some families struggled with job loss, housing insecurity, or even the death of a loved one. Others experienced changes like remote work or social isolation. These events shape how students perceive school and social settings.
Avoid Comparison
Don’t compare your child’s progress to others. Recovery and adjustment are deeply personal processes. What matters most is offering consistent love, support, and understanding.
Tap into School and Community Support
What Are Wellness Centers?
All public high schools in Delaware have wellness centers that offer counseling and health services to enrolled students. These services are confidential and available during the school day.
How to Access Services
Parents and students can complete enrollment forms available online or at the school office. Once registered, students can receive mental health counseling, medical support, and referral services for more complex needs.
Frequently Asked Questions:
Q1. How can I help my child if they are afraid to return to school?
A: Talk to your child openly, validate their fears, and offer practical reassurances. Gradual exposure to school-related activities, like visiting the school before the term starts, can help ease anxiety.
Q2. What if my child refuses to go back to school?
A: If resistance continues despite support, reach out to the school counselor or a licensed therapist. They can help uncover the root cause and provide coping strategies.
Q3. Are behavioral changes normal at the start of the school year?
A: Yes, short-term changes like mood swings, sleep disturbances, or withdrawal can be normal. However, if they persist for several weeks, seek professional advice.
Q4. What resources are available at school to support mental health?
A: Delaware public high schools have Wellness Centers that offer counseling, health services, and referrals. Enrollment is required, but services are free and confidential.
Q5. How can I tell if my child is struggling emotionally?
A: Signs include persistent sadness, withdrawal from activities, sleep issues, irritability, or academic decline. Don’t hesitate to consult professionals if you’re unsure.
